"THE SCIENCE BEHIND FINDING THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE"

by Pastor Lew & Monica Belcourt [28yrs married]

This is the last topic in IES.PRO series in "THE MONTH OF LOVE" (February)... I got a lot of revelations yesterday and I agree that this is relevant for everyone!

“More than 85% of problems in marriage have existed since the day the couple started dating." -Neil Clark Warren, PhD

Pre-engagement counseling is important if you’re not engaged yet.

When you are trying to find the love of your life, AVOID these mistakes :

#1: The decision to get married is made too quickly

#2: One or both persons is too eager to be married

#3: The experience base with the person is too narrow.

#4: The couple has unrealistic expectations.

#5: One or both have unaddressed significant personality problems

Finding the Love of Your Life --- STEPS to getting it right!!!

•  Develop a Clear Image of Your Ideal Spouse

Think about what qualities do you want in a mate? “The person of my dreams” VS “The person I can attract” It’s not much on physical appearance. We have to be realistic of what we can attract. Maximize our strengths, minimize our weaknesses.

• Find a Person to Love who is Like You --- 5 Areas are Intelligence, Values, Intimacy (Really deep things that you don’t share in superficial relationship), Interests, & Expectations/Roles

 You both have many similarities. “For couples, similarities are like money in the bank. Differences are like debts they owe.”

• Don't forget the importance of support for your relationship! Value others' opinions.

THE EPHESIANS 5 QUALITIES - We are called to do things that don't come naturally. Women must respect! Men must love!"

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"FOR THE LADIES--- If you can find a man that will give up his life for you or who will put your interests first... MARRY HIM!!!"

Q&A time!

• What if you cannot find a partner, is that ok? The Bible says it’s better to be single! But if you cannot help yourself, MARRY!

•  How do you know if he'll be committed forever? YOU DON'T. This is where you both trust in God

• How do you know you've found the Love of Your Life? When everyone important in life supports your decision.

• How do we overcome long distance in relationships? Technology and Air Asia! :p

• What are the physical boundaries during dating? Before getting married, don't take off any piece of clothing!

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Praise God! I have never imagined that I could sing together with Keith Martin. What a great opportunity that God gave to me.. Keith Martin is a well-known singer and song writer from Washington DC. His top hits are Because of You, Love of My Life and he's now working on his newest album..All glory to Jesus! Jesus loves you all!




Verse 1:
...oh yah, oh yah...
If ever you wondered if you touched my soul yes you do
Since I met you I'm not the same
You bring life to everything I do
Just the way you say hello
With one touch I can't let go
Never thought I'd fall in love with you...

Chorus:
Because of you, my life has changed, thank you for the love and joy you bring
Because of you, I feel no shame, I'll tell the world it's because of you
Verse 2:
Sometimes I get lonely and all I gotta do is think of you
You captured something inside of me
You make all of my dreams come true
It's not enough that you love me for me
You reached inside and touched me eternally
I love you best explains how I feel for you...

Chorus:
Because of you, my life has changed, thank you for the love and the joy you bring
Because of you, I feel no shame, I'll tell the world it's because of you

Bridge:
The magic in your eyes
True love I can't deny
When you hold me I just lose control
I want you to know that I'm never letting go
You mean so much to me I want the world to see,
It's because of you

Chorus:
Because of you, my life has changed, thank you for the love and the joy you bring
Because of you, I feel no shame, I'll tell the world it's because of you
My life has changed thank you for the love and the joy you bring
Because of you, I feel no shame, I'll tell the world it's because of you...

Year of MULTIPLICATION and PROMOTION

I believe that 2011 is year of multiplication and promotion! Do u believe it?
If u do believe it, I bet you will experience it!

In life, if you do believe on something, you will get it!

YOU GET WHAT YOU BELIEVE! But it depends on God's will right?
We cannot push God to get all that we want.

Even though there will be hard times in this year, I believe that He won't let us go.
For whosoever believe in Him shall not "die!"

For example, there might be natural disasters or earthquake attacks or something this year. But do not worry
as whoever who TRUST GOD will be saved!

We will be saved from any bad accidents..
Just look to Him!

I do not know what you are facing right now. You might be enjoying great circumstances. Or you might have no life purpose.. You only "go with the flow". Or there might be some of broken-hearted people who are reading this.

Remember, many times break ups are actually breakthroughs! (quoted by RevRun)

You gonna see that you deserve much better than your exes :D

God has provided u the best of the best for every aspect of your life.

I encourage you to keep smiling even though your heart is aching.. It's hard, I know.. But let's show that
we can!!
Let's inspire the world :)

Also, let's keep on dreaming and and working on it! If u really want to be a professional photographer maybe, you could keep learning to capture some great angles!

Speak positive words! Speak to yourself every day that you will be promoted.. Your work fields will be multiplied, your "territory" will be enlarged.. and you'll see it's all gonna happen~

I speak blessings to u all! Know that Jesus Christ loves you all .. whoever you are..~

Keep saying that 2011 is year of multiplication and promotion~ !! love u all!

OMEGLE! WHAATTT?

Any of u have heard about omegle? If u still have no idea what it is, go to www.omegle.com

U will be able to chat with STRANGERS from all over the world!
We use no display picture, no nickname, nothing! Try omegle. I have found some bad guyssss like those who are into pornography or things like that.. I know u know it..
They only wanna talk about sex.

But i have found some good friends from omegle.
The best one named Kimo from Hawai'i .. I forget his full name.. but he's been so nice to me.. He helped me doing my English assignments, he sacrificed his bed time, waking up early in the morning just to help checking my English grammar and structure..
He's the best God-given friend from omegle indeed. I never thought i could have found some good friends from it...

I love to see Kimo's nephews on webcam and I love hearing their voices too! They are too cute! Ka'eo Jr and Koa :) They are bigger now.. When i knew Koa, he still coulnd't walk but nowwww he can wallkkkk already! *claappp claapppp*

I wil put some pictures here soon maybe..
Oh well these are Kimo's nephews :) they're too cute.

ohh and also i got a nice friend from Finland, named Matleena. I call her Mato.. :)
She loves horses.. She loves riding horses actually.. She got a dog too named Kamu... that's funny cuz in Bahasa 'kamu' means 'you'...
Haha...
she's like 5 or 6 years younger than me.. Her father had passed away.. She lives with her step mum. but that's good knowing that she's a strong girl.. I can't forget the way she read a book in her language for me :) This is her with one of her horses, Stella.

Another friend from omegle named Wang Li, from China. It's interesting that we have the same major.. Mass Communication.. well.. his accent is funny :D
He always says "hello my friend, how are you?" every time he starts our conversation...
He's a family man.. He usually tells me that he misses home.. he stays in the campus dorm.. so he usually gets back home only every saturday if im not mistaken..
I haven't really talked to him again cuz we have been busy with campus and stuffs.. but i will never forget him LOL he taught me chinese..
I have forgotten what i learnt from him though haha..
Sorry Wang Li... :p I forget where I put your picture too :p

I had also experienced weird things when using omegle. A person said that she's a Hongkong actress. She gave me her website and so on.. But before she did that, she was like sharing her feelings with me.. She said her husband doesn't love her anymore because she's already old.. He's got a new wife.. who is younger and prettier than her. And she also told me that she preferred being a lesbian. But she was still straight though.. She added me on msn and etc... She wanted to have a vdo call with me but her connection was bad.. I still don't know if she's real.. I am not saying either she's real or not real.. I'll know about that when this life on earth is over. HAHA.

The other friend from omegle named Charity. She's from Colorado, USA.
She's quite conservative. She studies literature. She told me a long story about the USA's history and also her love life and family..
She was in love with an Asian guy.. from Singapore. They met in a bus.. They decided to be married near the lake. Nobody attended the wedding.. Her family still didn't know that she's already married at that time. But now, she has told her family.. She shared her pics with his man and also showing me the gown she might wear on her wedding day. This lady is quite reserved as well. She doesn't even want me to know her facebook account. She said she prefers to use yahoo messenger.. So that's okay! Haha.. we still have some chat when we're available. I'm too lazy to find her pics :p


Ahhh i had a fast conversation also with a Turkish guy named Talha.. he repsects me and my religion indeed. He told me about his country that Turkey really respects the minority.. Not like here in Indonesia.. even building a church is so hardddd...
Im not blaming anyone but that's the fact isnt' it...And i was a bit shocked he could feel that i was crying at that time.. I was actually crying because of something and he asked me "are you crying?" hahaha quite sensitive guy. I didn't save his pic.. He's a nice hairy man :)

Well, i still got some other friends from omegle.. but the rest are not as memorable as the ones i wrote about above.. :D

So, just give it a try using omegle in a good way.. U may find things u have never discovered before :)

See ya!

HELLO BACK WORLD!

Hey guys, it's been a while.. How are you all? I know you'll be fine as long as u think u are gonna be fine after facing those "storms" in life ;)

I've been learning a lot in the past 3 months.

Learning to trust, hope, to be persistent as well as patient most of the time.

In this 5th semester of my uni life, i need to make a movie (category: culture). My group chose music. Explorational music as the topic. We will be exposing Frans Sisir, a guy from Papua who can use comb and plastic bag as a musical instrument.

It's got a saxophone-like sound.

As the producer and the scriptwriter of this movie project, I've been giving all my very best contacting him, writing the script in English.. Proper English.. Bleah..

That was hard.. English isn't my first language.

Thanks a lot to Terry Theodore my Singaporean friend who helped me to correct the grammar and structure of the proposal.. YAY! I do thank God for you my bro :)

So, the shooting process is on the go. This morning was the second day of shooting.. It was FUN-TASTIC!!!!!!! :) Thanks a lot to the Bagenda clan :) Ronny, Netty, Joel, Joyce, and Jessica for your time! U guys got a great acting skill! No wonder we finished the shooting only in 1 hour~!

(wrong spelling on the word "title" above)

I realize more and more each day that whatever we do without God's contribution is totally a ZERO.

Shooting - Day 1 - was NORMAL. It was taken at MES Cendrawasih, somewhere near my campus. It's like a Papuan cribs.. We shooted some Papuan kids to represent our main actor's childhood. 

Errrmm.. But me and team were totally disappointed because of the main actor (Frans Sisir himself) broke his promise. We actually have made an appointment like few weeks before to shoot him on that day and after that day! But he wasn't even at home! I called him like 70 times but he didn't answer the phone! Til his wife answered the phone IN THE EVENING! too late Madam to answer it actually! She was like being unfriendly to me on the phone.. wondering why should u shoot my husband? what kind of project is thattt?? (Like showing how weird it is to have a movie project at Uni)

I explained and explained and I emphasized to her and her husband not to PROMISE first if they are not able to fulfill what they have promised. Our team had been waiting him in his house for so long, with our heavy equipment such as red light, tripod, camera, and so forth. Thank God his second child was at home at that time, so we could enter his house to shoot some pictures on the wall. His child named Kezia as well. Just like me. She was like being pushy asking me to buy some snacks for her and also asking me to accompany her playing barbies and drawing things.. Well... it was okay. Quite fun. This is my picture with her and Daniel, her neighbor.

But well, his father has made a bad impression in our team's mind. Too bad.

So, we learn once again about INTEGRITY! DO WHAT YOU SAY! SAY WHAT YOU CAN DO!

Be honest, like if you want the money, just tell your boss how much you want!

Your boss will consider what's best for you!

Oh one more disappointing thing about him was he said "YES I WILL HELP YOU ON YOUR PROJECT, DARLING"

Well please be sincere if u do really want to help people. Not like him.

That was truly a bad example!

But God bless you and family, Frans Sisir! We still thank you and Him! We reap what we sow..

This project is for God's glory.. If u think u are great, look to our Creator! He's much greater than us! Be humble!

Be consistent! Be true!

I speak to my life that the next shooting process is gonna be fulfilled with miracles, joy, and God's gonna contribute His power in it! So it's all about our teamwork with God..

I will let u know guys about the amazing result.. If i am able to post the movie clip on the internet i will let u know..

Thanks a lot for those who have been praying for this project, and those who have been supporting us through whatever it is!

WE DO appreciate it! God will give back double good things to u!

Tomorrow is gonna be better than today.

P.S: Do not be afraid to speak up your mind! Just filter the words u use when u write it on the internet. Just like what I just did here.

Cheers! Peace on earth!

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:'( sometimes i cry for no reason. being just too sensitive ... you ladies should understand what i mean. this maybe my shortest post .. errr sorry!

The Secret of Happiness

my friend told me that the secret of happiness is do not expect others to do what u do to them. and there are more sentences left but i don't remember.
i'll update this one later on.
i guess a guy has to show that he does care more
and a lady should be ignorant a bit when she needs to.
well woman vs man = feeling vs logic , rite?
im not feeling so well at the moment.
but i know that i gotta keep telling myself that "that thing is just a normal thing". it's not more than i expect. expect the unexpected.
yes keep telling yourself~ and you can survive!

i may die or i may be gone in 20 mins or 2 years or 20 years ..
but i would like to thank you for whatever it is thank you for making me smile, frown or whatever. thank you!